I don’t care how connected you think you are to a culture, if it’s not the one you were raised in you have no claim to it. That’s not a hard concept

say it again

also worth noting that if you are raised in something different than what your genetics dictate, you still have a claim to it. not applicable to me but this is just my opinion

I feel like I should buy an address book like a proper adult, instead of keeping my friends’ addresses on randomly collected slips of paper cut off of the packages or envelopes they send me.